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Reselling clothes to delete, erase and remove unwanted memories

The film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, was influential when I grew up. I was in early adulthood. You can see the attraction of wanting to edit out and wipe over sources of disappointment and pain. Our lives do fall short of our expectations, or hopes. And sometimes we had placed too much expectation on one of our relationships, or a group of people.

I’ve found reselling items a powerful way to find closure about upsetting or inconclusive memories. And including relationships where there wasn’t a way to say goodbye either.

Reselling helps to remove the items which may trigger a memory which you are wanting to experience less often. Packaging up the item of sentiment, and folding over it with the closure of the parcel then putting it into a postbox. It’s all a metaphor in real life, for letting go of the person or grievance.

We feel resistance to letting go

I’m sure I hold onto more belongings than I should. One significant moment was selling my guitars from my early adulthood. They signified very positive emotions and experiences. Sometimes I think I shouldn’t have sold them. My dad was disappointed. I used the money to purchase a laptop, because in lockdowns I wanted to improve my IT skills.

One person brought a guitar and collected it after driving all the way from Liverpool. Coincidently Liverpool is the last place I truly felt creative with my instrument, as that’s where I went to uni.

The other guitar was brought to be a present for someone’s nephew. There was a sense that someone fresh, younger may find new enjoyment in it.

Letting go mistakes

I wouldn’t tell everyone to sell items which they treasure, if you don’t feel sure over time that you want to sell it, please don’t. Sometimes you are happy to see how you might feel without the items and its sentimental energy. And sometimes there are people who will sell you a sob story to make you feel you should sell your valued item for less.

Rejection and memories of times with low confidence

Items associated with a time when you had low confidence or experienced a vivid rejection, can be helpful to resell. Or you can tidy them away out of sight using storage solutions like zip up coverings for clothes, to keep them safe.

If and when you hear from the new owner of the item, about their positive feelings with the product, then you have created a new memory, a new connection about the object with unwanted emotions attached. And you can start to think of the disappointment or sentimental memory being somehow shared with a new owner, who will help take care of it for you.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0338013/ – The link to Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind on IMDB,

‘When their relationship turns sour, a couple undergoes a medical procedure to have each other erased from their memories.’

The concept of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Reselling sentimental items, a much safer way to make peace with unwanted thoughts and disappointments.

Ladders – Easter God Slot

One sermon I remember from growing up in church was the example of a ladder, and all the sorts of things we rest our lives upon, the aims we struggle towards and what we hope for. And whether we find our climb is a God shaped ladder or think for a while where it is leading us.

I can’t say I am perfect, and one colleague recently said, when you get further up the ladder at work, sometimes you get further away from what you really set out to do.

I struggle with considering money as the ultimate ladder for life. Lately with all the prices going up so much and seeing our local area be developed into luxury housing and luxury serviced student flats, it makes me think, the only way to achieve the things you want in life, is with more money.

A colleague of mine kindly prayed for me, for prosperity of spirit. I guess this is something we can all pray for, to be filled with God, or a sense of purpose, or maybe to feel peace. All these things are intangible richness in life. Being content is another one, and grateful. It’s so easy to always find something that disappoints us.

I don’t always know if I’ve set my ladder right, but my dad says to me it’s important to have goals. I believe that getting clearer about what we want, can help guide us, when so many things distract us from our path.

Superkey’s Easter Prayer

I am weighing up how adults can be successful in their own right, when after graduating other life milestones are more difficult to achieve. If couples never expect to own their home, and housing is so uncertain for families. What other steps are adults supposed to take? Many young people aren’t so motivated with driving as different generations. Maybe it’s more growing old, and career path mapping?




Can you think of ladders in your life which represent goals you are working towards?