Category Archives: Wealth

Reselling clothes to delete, erase and remove unwanted memories

The film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, was influential when I grew up. I was in early adulthood. You can see the attraction of wanting to edit out and wipe over sources of disappointment and pain. Our lives do fall short of our expectations, or hopes. And sometimes we had placed too much expectation on one of our relationships, or a group of people.

I’ve found reselling items a powerful way to find closure about upsetting or inconclusive memories. And including relationships where there wasn’t a way to say goodbye either.

Reselling helps to remove the items which may trigger a memory which you are wanting to experience less often. Packaging up the item of sentiment, and folding over it with the closure of the parcel then putting it into a postbox. It’s all a metaphor in real life, for letting go of the person or grievance.

We feel resistance to letting go

I’m sure I hold onto more belongings than I should. One significant moment was selling my guitars from my early adulthood. They signified very positive emotions and experiences. Sometimes I think I shouldn’t have sold them. My dad was disappointed. I used the money to purchase a laptop, because in lockdowns I wanted to improve my IT skills.

One person brought a guitar and collected it after driving all the way from Liverpool. Coincidently Liverpool is the last place I truly felt creative with my instrument, as that’s where I went to uni.

The other guitar was brought to be a present for someone’s nephew. There was a sense that someone fresh, younger may find new enjoyment in it.

Letting go mistakes

I wouldn’t tell everyone to sell items which they treasure, if you don’t feel sure over time that you want to sell it, please don’t. Sometimes you are happy to see how you might feel without the items and its sentimental energy. And sometimes there are people who will sell you a sob story to make you feel you should sell your valued item for less.

Rejection and memories of times with low confidence

Items associated with a time when you had low confidence or experienced a vivid rejection, can be helpful to resell. Or you can tidy them away out of sight using storage solutions like zip up coverings for clothes, to keep them safe.

If and when you hear from the new owner of the item, about their positive feelings with the product, then you have created a new memory, a new connection about the object with unwanted emotions attached. And you can start to think of the disappointment or sentimental memory being somehow shared with a new owner, who will help take care of it for you.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0338013/ – The link to Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind on IMDB,

‘When their relationship turns sour, a couple undergoes a medical procedure to have each other erased from their memories.’

The concept of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Reselling sentimental items, a much safer way to make peace with unwanted thoughts and disappointments.

Party People Like to Party All Night Long

people enjoying the concert
Photo by anna-m. w. on Pexels.com

It’s Wednesday 27th July, I’m due at the City Hall of Bristol City Council to make my representation for the disruption caused by local Lakota night club.

First round, each side is offered a chance to speak.

Then the council members had to decide whether to go to a full review. Coffee was ordered, perhaps it wasn’t going to over quickly…

The committee decided to go for a full review.

Again the for and against side of the license agreement for the club had their slots to speak.

Then a councillor wanted to ask more questions, to clarify various things I and they said.

Although he seemed to be asking questions which seemed ‘good cop’ then ‘bad cop’.

Like in a job interview when you don’t get the job because you were under-qualified.

Whats worse drink spiking or laughing gas???

I wasn’t sure how much to add a reply, and a back and forth response was frowned upon by the councillor sitting opposite me. It wasn’t clear who was chair, and the councillor seemed to derail the meeting with …. drinks spiking topics.

Evidence from the neighbourhoods team, 9 other resident complaints. However residents had dropped out of the complaints process.

The lawyer for Lakota kept saying how without police evidence this meeting shouldn’t be happening.

Scroll back on my phone to the links for young people who died with overdoses and the assaults that happened inside the club.

After 5 hours, the club seemed to have escaped further restrictions. The councillor whose friend had their drink spiked, decided to extend their license so people can drink outside too.

Maybe the most satisfying aspect of the meeting was the length of time we all had to spend going over noise level monitors and CCTV. Look at the laughing gas industry sitting on their doorstep.

For further news articles on late night licensing and anti social behaviour please see this Bristol World link.

https://www.bristolworld.com/news/putting-petrol-to-the-fire-fears-raised-over-late-night-takeaway-plans-next-to-turbo-island-in-stokes-croft-3839201

Where next for the British economy?

The British people had become so fixated on the ‘fixer upper’ to rent out to three or maybe four tenants… and nearly all other business ideas were abandoned, as property became the holy grail of… well nearly everything… in the last few years.

So it doesn’t surprise me now, when I see the slowing growth of the UK economy.

All those interesting businesses, and small businesses which added flavour and virtue to our local communities, seem to have been like…. a tap turned off, or switched off.

And without these shoots of flowering business start ups, and so much investment into flipping properties to rent, or to sell. Well it doesn’t surprise me, that we are in the puzzle of how to start growing our economy again.

Which businesses will be the ones to be able to survive the bumpy ride into 2023 and beyond?

Well, possibly those with good renewable energy business plans, and maybe ones with some flexibility or solid reserves.

Apologies for using SpaceX incorrectly as an image about British business, I like the innovative outlook of companies like SpaceX where private investment filled a void to keep progression in space travel after the discontinued NASA programme.