Reselling clothes to delete, erase and remove unwanted memories

The film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, was influential when I grew up. I was in early adulthood. You can see the attraction of wanting to edit out and wipe over sources of disappointment and pain. Our lives do fall short of our expectations, or hopes. And sometimes we had placed too much expectation on one of our relationships, or a group of people.

I’ve found reselling items a powerful way to find closure about upsetting or inconclusive memories. And including relationships where there wasn’t a way to say goodbye either.

Reselling helps to remove the items which may trigger a memory which you are wanting to experience less often. Packaging up the item of sentiment, and folding over it with the closure of the parcel then putting it into a postbox. It’s all a metaphor in real life, for letting go of the person or grievance.

We feel resistance to letting go

I’m sure I hold onto more belongings than I should. One significant moment was selling my guitars from my early adulthood. They signified very positive emotions and experiences. Sometimes I think I shouldn’t have sold them. My dad was disappointed. I used the money to purchase a laptop, because in lockdowns I wanted to improve my IT skills.

One person brought a guitar and collected it after driving all the way from Liverpool. Coincidently Liverpool is the last place I truly felt creative with my instrument, as that’s where I went to uni.

The other guitar was brought to be a present for someone’s nephew. There was a sense that someone fresh, younger may find new enjoyment in it.

Letting go mistakes

I wouldn’t tell everyone to sell items which they treasure, if you don’t feel sure over time that you want to sell it, please don’t. Sometimes you are happy to see how you might feel without the items and its sentimental energy. And sometimes there are people who will sell you a sob story to make you feel you should sell your valued item for less.

Rejection and memories of times with low confidence

Items associated with a time when you had low confidence or experienced a vivid rejection, can be helpful to resell. Or you can tidy them away out of sight using storage solutions like zip up coverings for clothes, to keep them safe.

If and when you hear from the new owner of the item, about their positive feelings with the product, then you have created a new memory, a new connection about the object with unwanted emotions attached. And you can start to think of the disappointment or sentimental memory being somehow shared with a new owner, who will help take care of it for you.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0338013/ – The link to Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind on IMDB,

‘When their relationship turns sour, a couple undergoes a medical procedure to have each other erased from their memories.’

The concept of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Reselling sentimental items, a much safer way to make peace with unwanted thoughts and disappointments.

Most relatable Queen internet meme

My YouTube feed seems full of Royal Family short videos. And this is my favourite.

She was meeting David Attenborough for a Trees Walk

When a helicopter noise was heard above. Suspicions were raised in her mind that it was probably Trump or Obama.

I really relate to this, where I live is very noisy sometimes, and unfortunately I have some hyper sensitivity to noise.

More royal sites to view and to understand how the next generation of royals are seeking to protect the planet see https://sussexroyal.com/monarchy/

In from the side new film – Gay Rugby

Deciding to take the plunge

I’m an LGBTQ+ woman, so why would I watch the film… well, why not? It’s great to see representation which the gay community has more input over, and it will feel closer to home. The film picks up themes of succeeding and failing as a team, how that feels.

Spoiler alert***

The two men who hit it off, are both in relationships, which aren’t fulfilling them. They have great chemistry and are soon pursuing each other, to discover more, and to feel that wonderful feeling of the connection they share.

Trouble brewing

Their partners both signify stability or returning favours, like being helped out from a bad period of time. Mark and Warren find a fresh start with each other, and are really well suited, like soul mates and partners.

It’s too difficult to break off the existing relationships and it all comes out at the wrong time, during a NYE party.

The feel of the film

I really liked the music, and I found myself crying when Mark & Warren break up for the last time. A few cringe moments, as they tried to keep it secret, to avoid their relationship being outed in the group.

Yes, I really was crying in the cinema, so that says something about the performance of the actors being good.

Best supporting roles

There were some really great supporting roles including Marks best friend Henry, and the team joker/clown – Pinkie.

I hope I haven’t said too much about the film. It’s all about the sentiment you feel when you see it at the cinema.

The Official Website http://www.infromthesidemovie.com

In From The Side is described as an Independent Gay Rugby Film and it received 5 stars from The Sunday Times and queer press have hailed it as an excellent cinematic feature film!